Message to a Survivor
It doesnt last forever. You have had and will have so many amazing experiences in your life that will slowly but surely drown out the bad. And some day youll realise it doesnt really hurt so much any more and its all ok. I have got to that point and i just know you will get there too pet xo
Message of Healing
Healing to me means acknowleging that i am actually a victim, and not letting that define me. I defined myself by what i decided and part of that journey was realising my experience was infact assault. No experience is too small. Dont feel like you arent really a victim because it “could have been worse”. It shouldnt have to be. If you feel like something that happened to you was wrong, then it was wrong. That was the hardest thing for me, to admit that what happened to me was wrong. But once i realised i was a victim i was able to stop gaslighting myself and focus on trying to heal, which isnt easy but its a step, and it is something that has to be taken one step at a time! So it is hard but you can do it!
For me, my story entailed a male friend getting into my bed when i told him not to and forcing me to ‘cuddle’ with him, while he grabbed at me. He had been telling me all night how he missed his girlfriend, particularly her body & “that” part of their relationship. I felt horrible, i was uncomfortable and scared that he might do more. He didnt. But still even years later i feel uneasy when i think about it & how creepy he really was. He ignored me when i said no. He took away my autonomy that night. So dont feel like your story isnt worthy just because it “could have been worse”. Every experience is valid ❤️
