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This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
As someone who is in the process of court hearings due to rape and sexual assault. It would be nice to find support and speak to others who are in similar situations.
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I'm hoping that I can live with this and be more kind to myself. I will be reporting and I know that it may not go in my favour or that anything will happen. And I am OK with that
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Healing has happened in many forms for me. I have used professional resources, creatively expressed myself through healing.
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It’s never easy, but you learn to be okay again. Trust the process.
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Don't let someone use you, manipulate you, deceive and gaslight you, abuse you psychologically, financially, sexually. You (and your children) can do better than survive without them. You can find peace and a new life. Help is out there. Talk to someone now and believe you can start anew.
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What happened was not your fault. You deserve to be speak and be heard.
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There is always light at the end of the tunnel. There is always hope as "hope is a thing with feathers." There is help out there and there is always someone willing to listen. Things always get better in the end, there is so much more to look forward to. You are not your past trauma. There is a future out there, waiting.
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It gets better. I know you’ve heard that and probably raising your eyes to heaven as your reading this. But it does. There was one time where I thought this would define me for the rest of my life, but it doesn’t. It’s not who I am, it’s something that happened to me, the blame is on another person.
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I've a lot of healing to do. Starting with counselling to try understand everything and why it wasn't all my fault.
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To me, healing means learning to live with what happened and carrying that with you.
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Healing, to me, is a constantly evolving. It started with accepting what had happened to me. I hope that one day I will confide in someone about my experience and truly heal from it.
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You are still here despite everything. You are the strongest, most resilient person. Keep going, the pain may never go away, but it will fade with time, I promise you that.
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Sexual violence is the most Earth-shattering and world view altering experience to endure. But speaking as somebody who endured it and came out the other side a more compassionate, stronger woman - you will be ok. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, or the next day, but eventually you will be.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
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You can leave, it’s possible, and there’s better out there.
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I don't know if its possible.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
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You did nothing wrong. You will be okay. Seek help and talk to someone.
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I know now that the abuse I went through was not normal and not acceptable and it gave me hope to know that future partners would never do that to me. I hope that if anything like this ever happened to me again, I will have the courage to speak up. There are bad people in the world, but there are a lot of good people too.
Report
This is a space where survivors of trauma and abuse share their stories alongside supportive allies. These stories remind us that hope exists even in dark times. You are never alone in your experience. Healing is possible for everyone.
It’s never easy, but you learn to be okay again. Trust the process.
Report
There is always light at the end of the tunnel. There is always hope as "hope is a thing with feathers." There is help out there and there is always someone willing to listen. Things always get better in the end, there is so much more to look forward to. You are not your past trauma. There is a future out there, waiting.
Report
It gets better. I know you’ve heard that and probably raising your eyes to heaven as your reading this. But it does. There was one time where I thought this would define me for the rest of my life, but it doesn’t. It’s not who I am, it’s something that happened to me, the blame is on another person.
Report
You are still here despite everything. You are the strongest, most resilient person. Keep going, the pain may never go away, but it will fade with time, I promise you that.
Report
Sexual violence is the most Earth-shattering and world view altering experience to endure. But speaking as somebody who endured it and came out the other side a more compassionate, stronger woman - you will be ok. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, or the next day, but eventually you will be.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
You did nothing wrong. You will be okay. Seek help and talk to someone.
Report
I know now that the abuse I went through was not normal and not acceptable and it gave me hope to know that future partners would never do that to me. I hope that if anything like this ever happened to me again, I will have the courage to speak up. There are bad people in the world, but there are a lot of good people too.
Report
Healing has happened in many forms for me. I have used professional resources, creatively expressed myself through healing.
Report
What happened was not your fault. You deserve to be speak and be heard.
Report
Healing, to me, is a constantly evolving. It started with accepting what had happened to me. I hope that one day I will confide in someone about my experience and truly heal from it.
Report
I don't know if its possible.
Dear reader, this message contains language of self-harm that some may find triggering or discomforting.
Report
As someone who is in the process of court hearings due to rape and sexual assault. It would be nice to find support and speak to others who are in similar situations.
Report
I'm hoping that I can live with this and be more kind to myself. I will be reporting and I know that it may not go in my favour or that anything will happen. And I am OK with that
Report
Don't let someone use you, manipulate you, deceive and gaslight you, abuse you psychologically, financially, sexually. You (and your children) can do better than survive without them. You can find peace and a new life. Help is out there. Talk to someone now and believe you can start anew.
Report
I've a lot of healing to do. Starting with counselling to try understand everything and why it wasn't all my fault.
Report
To me, healing means learning to live with what happened and carrying that with you.
Report
You can leave, it’s possible, and there’s better out there.
Report
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.