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It's not your fault. I used to think after the amount of times it had happened to me, it must be me. I must give off energy that makes men want to control and do this to me. It turns out, there are just so many people who want full contol and domination over others.

I was inappropriately touched and groped by an older uncle. I have only disclosed this with 2 people. The uncle is my moms brother and our family (particularly his immediate family) have suffered horrible losses and deaths over the years and I just don’t want to add fuel to the fire. I feel like I don’t want to tell anyone and make it public so I am so so happy to have found this space. I know my mom would be fully supportive, my whole family would but I just can’t bring myself to say it. I’m 30 now and although the abuse never got far, it sti...

It does get better. It doesn’t mean it will happen again. There is still love and joy in the world, even after it all. It just might take time to see it.

Speak up and speak out about your experiences and you will be amazed at the outpouring of support you will receive. And above all, never give up.

There is hope in survivors coming together to share their stories and offer each other support, encouragement and understanding. We are stronger together.

You are not your story. Your story does not define you. Your story is simply a piece of you. The journey of healing may be dark at times but there is always hope and always help. Us survivors are all the same. Regardless of our experience we are all incredible. You never know who you are inspiring by simply getting up in the morning.

You are more than your trauma.

I believe you. Whatever the circumstances were, whatever you were wearing, no matter how much you had to drink, no matter if you were on anything at the time, no matter if that person was your partner or a random stranger you met on a night out, you did not deserve what happened, and I believe you. I hope you find peace in yourself, I hope you can wake up in the morning and be able to face the day head on, I hope you have good people around to support you when you need it most.

When I feel safe, Healing is undoing the pain by living the life I have, doing the things I missed out in life, things I've never allowed to experience before, being fully in control and never have to look over my shoulder in fear.

It doesnt last forever. You have had and will have so many amazing experiences in your life that will slowly but surely drown out the bad. And some day youll realise it doesnt really hurt so much any more and its all ok. I have got to that point and i just know you will get there too pet xo

Believe in yourself Trust have faith and never give up FEEL IT TO HEAL IT

As cliche as it may be, things will get better. You are believed, you have value, and you deserve the greatest happiness. And you will get it! Make sure to put yourself first, to look out for yourself, and to surround yourself with those who genuinely care about you.

I’m able to get out of bed, laugh with my friends, achieve great things and carry on with my life, when all of that felt impossible at one point.

I have found huge comfort in sharing my story with other survivors. More women go through these trauma’s than you think. We’re all just scared that we’re too broken, too much. But we are not. We were violated. We lost our freedom and rights. We were forced on in the most vulnerable of places. That doesn’t go away. Still a number years on from when I was raped the first time I still struggle to talk about it. a numberyears on from being sexually assaulted and I haven’t told anyone about it. I’ve gone to the Rape Crisis Centre countl...

You are not alone. ❤️

You did nothing wrong. You will be okay. Seek help and talk to someone.

You are not alone , there is always hope and you didn't deserve what you went through, you are loved , none of this was your fault

Healing for me is to view myself with compassion and put the shame onto them instead of continuing to carry it.

I know now that the abuse I went through was not normal and not acceptable and it gave me hope to know that future partners would never do that to me. I hope that if anything like this ever happened to me again, I will have the courage to speak up. There are bad people in the world, but there are a lot of good people too.

It is never too late - there are skilled people out there who will make a difference.